Safety

BeThereAt.com has been set up to make it easier for you to meet new people both online and also in the real world.
Although you can limit your contact to online, BeThereAt.com has been developed for its users to attend and take part in Events and activities. This means meeting new people face to face and you should take every precaution that you would normally take in such circumstances.
Although BeThereAt.com does organise occasional events which are attended by its moderators, the majority of events and activities are organised by its members, and sadly BeThereAt.com cannot guarantee the behaviour of every one of its members.
If you decide to use BeThereAt.com it is because you want to meet people and increase your social life. However, please remember that whether you are male or female your personal safety is THE MOST IMPORTANT thing. So, be cautious, take sensible precautions, be alert to any situation that doesn’t feel right, and use your common sense.

Although meeting people online is easy and in some ways safer than in the real world (or 'offline'), it is also possible for some people to conceal their real identity. It may also be more difficult to get a realistic and accurate feeling for someone’s character so there are still certain precautions that you should take.
Don't share your surname, personal phone numbers, place of work, home address or any other identifying information while chatting, messaging or emailing until you are completely comfortable doing so. We suggest you use a pseudonym for your username, you use the BeThereAt.com messaging system instead of making your email address generally visible, and, that if you allow people to see an email address it is a secondary one and not one which you would not wish to provide to strangers. In your description of yourself be careful not to give away sensitive information or personally identifiable information. Messaging people via the BeThereAt.com website allows you to protect your identity and personal email address until you choose to reveal it. Sometimes, instead of asking for information, a person will provide his or her phone number early in the message exchange. Don’t feel obliged to use it. Insist that you prefer to stick to BeThereAt.com messaging. Immediately stop corresponding if you feel unsure, pressured or threatened and report the person to us by emailing: website36742@bethereat.com
All correspondence will remain totally confidential. You can Blacklist the profile of any member who behaves in an inappropriate or abusive manner. This person will then be unable to message or invite you and will be blocked from seeing events that you have proposed. You can report abusive behaviour of a member by clicking on the Icon at the top right hand corner of the member’s profile and following the instructions.

• Members sending harassing or offensive messages or emails
• Members behaving inappropriately after meeting in person
• Fraudulent registration or Profiles
• Spam or solicitation of other services
• Copyright infringement
• Members asking you for money or donations
• Any other violation of BeThereAt.com Terms and Conditions

Be There At is dedicated to improving your ‘real world’ social life because we think it is great to meet real people, not just virtual ones. However you should be aware that just because you have already been in contact with someone online and they seem perfectly ‘nice’ this is no guarantee of a person’s true nature. So, take basic safety precautions. If you’re meeting up with someone on your own for the first time, always arrange to meet in a public place. Never meet in a private home, hotel room or in a remote location. Try to arrange or accept meetings with multiple members rather than with only one other member (e.g., include a minimum of at least two invitees on any invitation you post and/or only accept invitations that require at least two invitees). If possible, have another member you already know accept the same invitation as you so you can go with someone or inform the event organiser that you would like to bring a friend. Please keep in mind it is possible for a member to create multiple profiles and then create an invitation that appears to be accepted by multiple people. Therefore, you should always meet at a VERY PUBLIC PLACE even if there are multiple members scheduled to attend the meeting. Tell at least one friend or family member what you are doing, who you are meeting, where you are going and when you expect to return. If possible, call that friend when you arrive home to confirm that you are safe, or ask your friend to contact you at a predetermined time. If you have a mobile phone, make sure it's charged and take it with you to your meeting DON'T ask other member(s) who you do not already know very well to pick you up. Get yourself to and from the meeting independently, even if you have to ask a friend drive you or take a taxi. Be careful about revealing your surname, personal phone numbers, place of work, home address or any other identifying information while chatting until you are comfortable doing so. Don't risk having your personal information stolen. The same goes for your drink - don't risk having it tampered with. Refrain from drinking excessively, as it could impair your ability to make good decisions and may put you at risk. Consider sticking to non-alcoholic drinks when meeting someone for the first time. Do not be afraid to walk away if you feel you have been lied to in anyway or otherwise feel uncomfortable. People who have pure motives do not need to lie. Never trust those that do. If you discover they are lying to you, chances are they are lying to others too. Report them. Whether it’s someone you’ve met up with independently, via an event posted by one of our members, or at one of BeThereAt.com’s own Events, we strongly encourage you to report any member to us who behaves in an inappropriate, intimidating or abusive manner immediately by emailing: website36742@bethereat.com No matter how well you get on, be careful of inviting people you’ve met online to where you live and revealing your address until you have got to know them much better. Immediately stop corresponding or leave the meeting when you feel unsure or threatened. Make sure you follow these tips on subsequent meetings. Remember, getting to know someone can be a long process.